Yeah this will be that kind of post. Call it a stew. A little bit of everything thrown together.
Yesterday was bad. I was really tired for some reason and could not stay awake. I got home and was so tired and teary and mean that I just went to bed. Does anyone remember that episode of Everybody Loves Raymond where Debra is pmsing and is so bad that Ray buys her midol?? Well, that was me. I think I did the best thing possible though, I called me best friend and talked for a good 45 minutes and went to bed.
This morning I feel like a million bucks, THANK YOU MIDOL. I am thinking I could be on the commercial. My flabby ass in a blue bikini asking for Brownies. Yes. It is going to be a good day.
E HATES soccar and I find it quite boring so do I make him stay in or just let him quit already?? The coach has made him sit out at least half of every game anyway so its not like he is letting his team down. I don't know. We are so busy but I had to go and make a big deal that if he signed up he had to play the whole season. So if I give in then he wins a silent battle of wills. However, we both win by not having to sit through 4 hours of soccar a week.
What would you do?
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I say let him quit. But talk to him and make it into a good reason for letting him quit, so that he doesn't think he won the battle of wills.
I LOVE my Midol. I even tell Husband to go take a pill or 2 when he's in a "mood". We had a similar situation with my daughter last year. She wanted to do street jazz, but ended up disliking it for whatever reason. Husband and I decided to make her finish the class because she made the commitment and she needs to follow through. Good luck with your decision.
Hmmm, the soccer thing is debateable. One side says well if you let him quit he will always think it will be that easy to quit anything else. The other side says if it makes life better and easier..go for it. hmmm. i heonstly dont know! i say let him wuit if its better on everyone!
That's a tough one. When I was in 7th grad I joined the swim team because I had been great at it when I was younger, but I was out of shape and couldn't even pass the endurance test. Well my mother made me stay on the team anyway. One of those "You signed up, you're going to see it through." Thing is once it was over, I was afraid to sign up for anything again because if I hated it I would have to stick with it no matter how long it was.
I say have a long talk and ask why he doesn't like it, if you feel he comes up with a good enough reason to let him quit make sure you explain that it won't be happening next time and you'll have to stick to your guns then.
Best of Luck!
Well, hmm......Soccer.
Ben's a terrible soccer player and I actually forgot to sign him up this season. I don't know. If you all hate soccer so much, why not quit? If he wins this battle, you know that there are many more battles to fight.
I'd drop it. Life's to short to be stuck doing something you both hate.
I'm sorry you're in pain. Thankfully, we're not trying this month...so no highs and crushing lows. I'm not sure if I'm happy about that or not.
Let him quit. He'll find something else to love. And then you won't have to sit through it.
And god. Midol is fanfreakingtastic.
Let him quit.
I quit Soccer. I HATED it. On the other hand, I LOVED softball and basketball. Soccer just wasn't for me.
I'm sure he'll find something he loves. If my parents forced me to do something I hated - or worse, forced me to give up something I was passionate about - my relationship with them would have been awful! I had an amazing relationship with both of my parents. I'm not a Mom, obviously, but I know that the best think you can do for your kid is to listen to him. If he doesn't want to do it, he doesn't want to do it. It's not about being a quitter or "teaching a lesson"... if you make him do it, the only lesson he'll learn is resentment. (My friend's parents did this crap to her - made her follow through on EVERYTHING and she still resents them for it.)
Encourage him to find a different activity... something that will either challenge him physically (another sport) or mentally (reading, chess, soduku ;)
I vote for letting him quit after a nice long talk. Let him make his case -- turn it to a teachable moment. He may not be good at soccer, but he can learn to be good at persuasion, right? :)
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